When a parent has a child with a drug addiction life stops because it basically it has to . The reason the addiction of your child engulfs not only the addict but you as the parent as well. It is your every moment of thought ,action, life in general you forget about everything and everyone else because you wan to stop and save your child from the nightmare they chose to live.BUT you can not instead you begin to live your own nightmare were you begin to lose your mind .
A parent of an addict has to step back at some point ,at least I did, and decide is this how they want to live forever constantly in mass confusion,terror and anger. I had to let my child live with his own choices and deal with the consequesences because of them and those consequences were life altering to him and us .
I learned though to be able to function I had to move forward and allow my life and the other people in my families life to go on and not stand still b/c of my child’s addiction. That was not easy and some days it was impossible but to be there for my son I had to be able to function and not be trapped in the vicious circle of self blame and enabling of his addiction . Some called it tough love I called it survival for myself and the rest of my family.
Each person decides how they will handle situations but in every situation Life must go on